Arrogance is not a quality that you are alien to! You certainly know someone or the other who is arrogant and is always trying to intimidate others. They are like classroom bullies, enjoying the act of putting down other people, completely disregarding their emotions and feelings. While reading this, are you getting a sinking feeling in your stomach that maybe these are the traits that define your own personality? If the answer is yes, you need to work on your arrogance before it consumes you.
There are several ill-effects of arrogance. We are not getting into them in this blog. This blog is about dealing with your arrogance once you have identified that you have this problem. You may ask at this point, how do I know if I am arrogant? After all, I am not able to take an objective view of my own attitude! The answer to this problem is that you can find out if you are arrogant through the opinion of friends and family. Are they afraid of sharing things with you that you may not approve? Do they feel intimidated by the high ground that you take in matters of achievement or moral compass? When you tick these boxes, you can be sure that you are arrogant.
Dealing with arrogance is a long, hard way. To be honest, the heart and the mind likes being arrogant. There is a certain joy in proving people wrong and then seeing them agree to your viewpoint. It is quite invigorating and addictive as well. However, you should understand that people are agreeing with your view simply because you are dominating them and subjugating them to surrender to your opinion. That is not called agreeing or supporting. That’s the technique of a bully and the effect is short-lived. You should learn to accommodate the views of others and respect them, just as you do yours.
Secondly, wake up to the fact that not all are uniformly talented, gifted or able. That does not make others inferior or unqualified. It may be that they did not have the same opportunities like you had. Take them in your stride to work with them. Be generous and give ample room to others. This will enable them to do their best, instead of arm-twisting them into doing things.
Arrogance can threaten and end careers and personal lives. Get in touch with Moner Alo for psychological counselling to handle your uncontrollable arrogance.